There’s a common misconception that you only start couples therapy when your relationship has gotten so bad that it’s about to end. Not true! Even the best of relationships can benefit from a tune up. Couples therapy provides the opportunity to work towards a more harmonious and loving. Common areas of focus include:
If you're feeling saddened and ashamed by conflict in your relationship, you should know that you’re not alone. When you love someone and are sharing a life together, it’s inevitable that you’re going to hit some bumps along the way. You may have clashes related to differences in lifestyles, career goals, the handling of finances, childrearing practices, how you experience emotions, or the degree of autonomy or closeness you prefer. At times, these differences may feel insurmountable. Our therapists provide tools to help you to get better at handling conflict. You’ll learn to spend less time fighting and more time collaborating to address issues and to move towards giving both partners what they need to feel loved, appreciated, and connected.
When couples struggle in their relationship, it’s common for communication to break down. You can get stuck repeating arguments, rehashing old hurts, and criticizing one another. At times, it may feel like you’ve lost your ability to talk together in a kind and connected way. Working with our therapists will help you break from this repetitive pattern and come to communicate more effectively. You will learn to listen less defensively, to express your feelings in a more empathic and supportive way, and to talk through challenging problems with mutual kindness and respect.
Many people worry that couples therapy will be a painful and unpleasant experience. Although sessions can get quite intense, there is also room for laughter, playfulness, and moments of deep connection. Sessions will typically be in person and last for 90 minutes so that there is time for both partners to talk in an unrushed way. Your therapist will provide a safe place for you to share your feelings, recognize challenges, and identify what more you want from your relationship. Then your therapist will help you work collaboratively to bring about positive, lasting changes that enhance communication, trust, intimacy, understanding, and mutual growth and well-being. The therapeutic approach is practical and brief. Empowerment for change will begin in the first session, and therapy typically lasts from 4 to 12 sessions.
There’s no way around it: couple’s therapy can be expensive. But ignoring your relationship problems can result in severe consequences down the road. Seeing a therapist can help you save your relationship and protect its longevity. Most importantly, it can help you rediscover your love, trust and connection with one another.